Trust.

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.
A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call.   She answered, ‘Public Utilities Board.’ There was silence. She repeated, ‘PUB.’ There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she heard a lady’s voice, ‘Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband’s pocket but I do not know whose number it is.’

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just ‘hello’ instead of ‘PUB’.

NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, ‘Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?’
The father-in-law answered in a smile, ‘Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you.’

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at.. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.

CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested ‘I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one.’ The SDU officer said, ‘Your requirements, please.’ ‘Oh, good looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don’t go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest.’ The officer listened carefully and replied, ‘I understand you need television.’

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

NO OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that ‘It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person’s character.’
It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..

RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that ‘A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation.’ Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, ‘Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school.’ On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, ‘Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker.’ She answered,’You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you..’
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It’s like a broken egg – cannot be reversed.

PERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception. One man’s meat could be another man’s poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, ‘Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey? ‘Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, ‘The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?’ Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, ‘How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman.’  The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, ‘Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you.’ Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.
It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river.

You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..

BE PATIENT
This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy’s hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy’s hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery and saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, ‘Daddy, I’m sorry about your truck.’ Then he asked, ‘but when are my fingers going to grow back?’ The father went home and committed suicide.

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or you wish to take revenge. Think first before you lose your patience with someone you love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones and hurt feelings often can’t. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

‘Good Life starts only when you stop wanting a better One’


Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away ‘

generous peace.

Verse1
I see him making those faces; trying his best to break my nerve
But Im calm in the face of anger and I dont reply to ugly words
If they ask me why Im silent; they say in this world you gotta take respect
I say gentleman Im like incense the more you burn the more Im fragrant

Chorus
We can fight but we dont need to fight tonight
Yeah, well put out the fire
If Im gonna fight then I fight for whats right
Lets go a little higher

Cause I was born you see
And I was raised to be
I lace the lines of these times with Generous Peace

Verse 2
Theres a thin line between virtue and fear though they look alike
Both demand restraint and its enough that I know where I stand in line
Im not scared of you Im scared of me and I live by controlling my fool
Cause youre a fool enough for the both of us but I still try to find the good in you

Chorus
We can fight but we dont need to fight tonight
Yeah, well put out the fire
If Im gonna fight then I fight for whats right
Lets go a little higher

Cause I was born you see
And I was raised to be
I lace the lines of these times with Generous Peace

Bridge
I know its hard to listen to the words you just cant stand
Gonna take more than a fist to enlighten an ignorant man
Dont you see how we fear the patient eyes of a lion
Dont you see how we fear those lions in their silence

We can fight but we dont need to fight tonight
Yeah, well put out the fire
If Im gonna fight then I fight for whats right
Lets go a little higher

We can fight but we dont need to fight tonight
Yeah, well put out the fire
If Im gonna fight then Im gonna fight for whats right
We can fight but we dont need to fight tonight
Yeah, well put out the fire
If Im gonna fight then I fight for whats right
Lets go a little higher

Cause I was born you see
And I was raised to be
I lace the lines of these times with Generous

We can fight but we dont need to fight tonight
Yeah, well put out the fire
If Im gonna fight then I fight for whats right
Lets go a little higher

We can fight but we dont need to fight tonight
Yeah, well put out the fire
If Im gonna fight then Im gonna fight for whats right

ha ha ha…

the speech left us only with one question..

will najib then help the people in Rejang with the flood problem? .

since his BN soldier lost the war.

since the govr side was not given ‘enough support’ by the local people, then does this mean that they wont support the people either??? and let his own rakyat suffer??  wow.. najib should think deeply before trying to make ‘deals’ with the rakyat.

truly speaking. the motion of u help me, i help u sounds so selfish i must say.

is this our PM?????

p/s: i wont be put under ISA right if this thing being posted??

He helped me. thank you.

help_key

i got my arabic exam this afternoon.. and something amazing happened.

there was this question i need to translate and the words were:

i h a v e..

man.. im not so familiar with this word and i just seemed to forget.. then i prayed deep down my heart.. i talked to HIM..

god please help me to remember.

n then out of sudden, a word came thru my mind which somehow reminds me of coming across it in the workbook.. and then i told myself ??

uh.. i have ??

yes.. it is!!

i was instantly dumbfounded..

n then here came another word i just couldn’t figure out the translation

r o o m

its easy.. i know the word. I KNOW. but i forgot.. and again i did the same thing.. repeated the whole ritual.. > pray

and banzai!! ..

i suddenly remembered..

the truth is that.. my memory is so damn bad.. and so what happened to me today.. really really surprised me. and i thanked HIM for that =)

alhamdulillah…

and suddenly i came across one simple thought..

maybe He wants me to remember Him  ~~

.exam?

copied from [niesaclub] YG =)

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Apa kata kita renungkan kembali tips kejayaan yang telah Allah titipkan di permulaan surah Al Mukminun, surah yang ke 23 di dalam lembaran Al Quran:

1. Keyakinan, kepercayaan and having faith in Allah, His Mercy and His Help.

"Sesungguhnya BERJAYALAH orang-orang yang beriman." [23:1]

Iman dan kejayaan disebut oleh Allah dalam ayat yang sama. Maka imanlah faktor utama kejayaan. Dan keyakinan yang tinggi inilah yang akan melahirkan attitude seterusnya yang bakal disebutkan dibawah.

2. Fokus, bersungguh-sungguh, sepenuh hati.

"iaitu orang-orang yang khusyuk dalam solatnya." [23:2]

Do one thing at a time. Jangan mencapah dan melayang fikiran ke sana ke mari. Be passionate in it. Bukan sambil lewa.

3. Prioritise

"dan orang-orang yang menjauhkan diri dari lagha (perbuatan dan perkataan yang tidak berguna)." [23:3]

Kebiasaannya dalam menghadapi musim peperiksaan yang penuh pressure, kita cenderung untuk berehat dan menenangkan minda dengan hiburan, movies, korean series, games, friendster dll sehinggakan selalu sahaja melebihi daripada masa rehat yang telah kita peruntukkan. Sebaik-baiknya kita mengoptimumkan penggunaan masa untuk belajar, dan mengisi masa rehat kita dengan perkara-perkara yang berfaedah seperti menyediakan makanan aka memasak (supaya tak makan maggie je selama 2minggu), membasuh, melipat atau menggosok baju, bersenam untuk melancarkan perjalanan darah di dalam badan dan bermacam-macam lagi yang anda sendiri lebih sedia maklum. However, the best thing to do during your break is to take wudhu’, solat hajat or recite Quran so that we will be closer to Allah, therefore our hearts will be at peace and calm state no matter how hard is the exam.

plus, do avoid complaining, whining, mengumpat lecturer dsbg kerana perkara-perkara sebegini tidak mendatangkan faedah kepada masa depan anda, tidak menambahkan markah untuk kertas peperiksaan yang bakal/telah diduduki malah boleh mendatangkan dosa dan kemurkaan Allah nauzubillah.

4. Care about each other

"dan orang-orang yang menunaikan zakat." [23:4]

Walaupun sedang berada di saat-saat genting, janganlah kita bersikap terlalu mementingkan diri, dan mengabaikan kawan-kawan yang lebih susah di sekeliling kita. Kongsilah apa yang termampu, be it knowledge, past year papers, or even just food. Sharing is caring.

5. Jaga hubungan antara lelaki dan perempuan

"dan orang-orang yang menjaga kehormatannya. kecuali terhadap isteri-isteri mereka, atau hamba yang mereka miliki, maka mereka (isteri dan hamba) dalam hal ini tiada tercela. Sesiapa yang mencari dibalik itu, mereka itulah orang-orang yang melampaui batas." [23:5,6,7]

Janganlah kita menggunakan alasan belajar untuk melanggari batas-batas pergaulan antara lelaki dan perempuan ajnabi, misalnya dengan study berdua-duan, kemudian pulang ke rumah berpimpin tangan, atau asal tension je mesti nak bergayut atau berchatting dengan kawan lelaki/perempuan anda. Padahal Allah kan sentiasa ada, sentiasa melindungi, sentiasa menolong…jika kita mencari dan meminta padaNya.

6. Jujur, amanah

" dan orang-orang yang memelihara amanah-amanah dan janjinya." [23:8]

Bukankah kita telah berjanji dengan pihak sponsor dan dengan ibu bapa kita untuk belajar bersungguh-sungguh dan score well in our exam? Lebih penting lagi, bukankah kita telah berjanji dgn Allah untuk memanfaatkan peluang kehidupan sebagai seorang pelajar yang telah dipinjamkanNya kepada kita sebagai medan untuk kita mengutip ilmu,pengalaman dan pahala buat bekalan di akhirat sana insyaAllah.

Please, no cheating in term of time, especially dalam dewan peperiksaan. Stop writing immediately when you are told to so. Instead, its time to say "Bismillahi tawakkaltu ‘ala Allahi wala haula wala quwwata illa billahil ‘azim."

7. Punctual, particular

"dan orang-orang yang memelihara solatnya."  [23:9]

Konsep yang boleh diambil dalam konteks muslim student’s life ialah supaya sentiasa belajar dengan berdisiplin, menepati masa, tidak berlengah-lengah, menjaga kualiti dan produktiviti harian kita. Jika sebelum ini kita diingatkan supaya berhenti menulis apabila tamat masa peperiksaan, kita juga perlu memulakan perjuanganan kita dalam pelajaran dan peperiksaan seawal yang mungkin. Memelihara solat lima kali sehari setiap hari juga mengajar kita untuk tidak berputus asa atau berpatang arang di pertengahan jalan, and to maintain keeping up with our effort continously, aka istiqamah.

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sekian =)

nikmat kesihatan.

Marilah kita berhenti sejenak merenung kisah seorang pemuda.

Moga ada ibrah dan hikmah yang boleh kita teladani dari kisah berikut.

Ini adalah kisah Ibrahim Nasser , seorang pemuda yang tinggal di Bahrain.

Dia telah lumpuh sepenuhnya sejak lahir dan hanya mampu menggerakkan kepala dan jari-jemarinya .

Bahkan, pernafasannya juga terpaksa menggunakan alat bantuan pernafasan.

Ibrahim telah menanam keinginan untuk bertemu dengan Sheikh Nabeel al-Wadi’ , seorang ulama’ Kuwait. Maka , ayah Ibrahim telah memohon pada Sheikh Nabeel al-Wadi’ agar dapat menunaikan hajat Ibrahim yang ingin bertemu dengannya.


Ibrahim sangat2 terkejut dan gembira ! apabila dia mendapati Sheikh Nabeel al-Wadi’ membuka pintu biliknya.

Perasaannya yang gembira , jelas terlihat pada wajahnya , hinggakan Ibrahim kehilangan kata2 pada mulanya .. :)

Sheikh Nabeel mengucup dahi Ibrahim

Kita dapat perhatikan yang pertemuan ini sangat hangat dengan mahabbah dan rahmah . Ibrahim dan Sheikh Nabeel saling bertukar-tukar cerita , antaranya berkisar dakwah di internet dan segala macam usaha yang diperlukan olehnya .


Sheikh Nabeel bersama bapa Ibrahim serta bapa saudaranya

Ketika mereka sedang berbual , Syeikh Nabeel telah bertanyakan satu soalan pada Ibrahim….hingga membuatkan jiwanya sebak , tidak mampu menahan lalu menghamburkan air mata .


…tidak mampu membendung kesedihan ketika mengenangkan penderitaannya

Hairan . Soalan apakah yang telah ditanya oleh Sheikh Nabeel hinggakan mengusik jiwa Ibarahim ?


Sheikh Nabeel mengusapkan air mata Ibrahim dan menenangkannya

Sheikh Ibrahim telah bertanya padanya :

Sekiranya Allah mengurniakan padanya nikmat kesihatan sehingga dia boleh berjalan , apakah yang akan dilakukannya ?

Sahabat sekalian, soalan inilah , yang telah mengusik jiwa Ibrahim hingga dia menangis semahu-mahunya… bahkan , jiwanya yang sebak turut dirasai oleh semua orang yang berada di biliknya ketika itu , termasuklah jurugambar . Mereka turut menangis bersama Ibrahim .

Ibrahim menjawab :

Demi Allah , kiranya aku boleh berjalan , aku akan menunaikan solat di masjid dengan penuh gembira dan akanmenggunakan segala nikmat kesihatan untuk mendapat redha Allah.